Let’s talk about first dates. Yes, they can be exciting – heart a flutter, butterflies in the stomach and all. But, let me tell you this, they can also be a real pain.
First dates provide you a chance to make an impression, but there are certain things that can rub many people the wrong way. To avoid being that annoying person, let’s dive into the top 10 things that can drive people crazy on a first date. Pay attention, because if you want that date to go smoothly, you better avoid these common behaviors that can result in frustrations.
Being Late
Seriously, how hard is it to be on time? Tapos na po ang era ng Philippine Time which is never on time. In the age of the internet, synchronized na mga digital clocks natin. When you show up late without a good reason, it’s a major annoyance. Respect your date’s time and make an effort to be punctual. And please lang, ibasura na ang excuse na ma-traffic. Dekada na na ma-traffic sa Pinas. You should have ably adapted to this condition by now.
Don’t Text and Date
You know what’s more important than your phone? The person sitting across from you. Just like in driving, your date needs your full attention. Yet some people can’t seem to put their phones down. Checking messages, scrolling through social media—it’s like they’re on a date with their screens. Aba, lumabas ka pa ano? Give your undivided attention to your date. Eyes on the road, eyes on your date.
Poor Listening Skills
If you can’t listen, why bother going on a date? Baka pusa o aso hanap mo for companionship, hindi tao. Interrupting, not paying attention—these are surefire ways to either irritate or make your date uncomfortable. Show some genuine interest naman. Actively listen and respond. You are there to get to know each other. You can’t get to know another person better if you don’t put in the effort to listen to what they have to say. Did you know that many people remember good listeners as also good conversationalists?
Bastos sa Service Staff
Look, if you can’t be nice to the staff, you’re probably not a nice person. Being rude or dismissive to waiters, security guards, cashiers or anyone serving you is a major turn-off. Treat people with respect, because how you treat others says a lot about you.
Mausyosong Questions
Okay, we get it. Curious ka. But bombarding your date with personal or invasive questions? That’s going to make them uncomfortable. Respect boundaries and let the conversation flow naturally. Don’t turn it into an interrogation. Ka-date ka niya hindi arresting officer so don’t ask your date questions that makes them feel they are being put on the spot.
Sobrang In-Love Sa Sarili
News flash: hindi naikot ang buong mundo sayo. Kahit yung buong Pilipinas lang, hindi rin. So constantly talking about yourself and ignoring your date is likely to give the impression that you’re not really interested in having another person in your life.
Lack of Personal Hygiene
Look, yung pagsipot sa date na mukhang di ka naliligo regularly or nagtu-toothbrush can be a super turn off. Yung kahit sa tingin pa lang parang naaamoy ka na? Wag ganyan. Filipinos, in general, can be very particular about personal hygiene and looking neat. Ok lang yan kung amoy EDSA ka kung talaga namang pang-public transportation lang budget mo. Pero do the minimum man lang and freshen up before you present yourself to your date.
Nega Vibes
Being on your first date is neither the time nor the occasion to bring up all the complaints you have in the world! You want to make a positive impression – yung dating na masaya kang kasama. You don’t have to stick to saying only positive things all the time but you should be mindful about making the conversation pleasant and enjoyable.
Talking about Exes
News flash number two: your date doesn’t want to hear about your exes. Bringing up past relationships or talking excessively about them is a major red flag. Focus on the present and getting to know each other. Leave that baggage at home. Important sa Pinoy ang marunong mag-move on.
Pressure for Physical Intimacy
Take a step back and chill. Pressuring your date for physical intimacy is a big no-no. Respect their boundaries and let things progress naturally. Pushing for something they’re not comfortable with? That increases the probability of you either ruining the date or getting your name entered in the police blotter report.
Ayan. These are the top 10 things that can drive people crazy on a first date. Pay attention, avoid these irritations, and you might just have a shot at a successful and enjoyable evening. Be present, listen up, show respect, and don’t forget basic hygiene. Most importantly, foster a genuine connection and leave the drama at home. Good luck out there, because dating can be either some kind of heaven or hell here on earth.
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